The things that matter

Imagine being on your deathbed, having an inch of life left in this world and coming to the sudden nauseating realisation that you had lived your life not for yourself but for everyone else but yourself.

All that matters, all that is essential in this life is:

  1. Worshiping God sincerely
  2. Making the people that raised you feel respected, honoured, happy and proud
  3. Making your inner child joyful

These are the three things that matter most in this life- in that order.

Looking at number three specifically, whenever you have that niggling thought: “what would people think” use your inner child as your litmus test. The one question to ask is “will this or will this not make my inner child happy?”. If yes and it does not compromise the first two points on the list I outlined… do it. If no… do not do it.

You must absolutely live for your inner child. Is he or she happy? Is he or she proud of you are and who you have become? Are you feeding him or her the carefree joy that they are craving?

Forget the people. Heal your child. Live to meet the needs of your child and not the expectations of people. This life is a stage and sooner or later the sun will set on this act. Your act.

What an unfortunate way to go… not having done what truly made your inner child joyful.

These are just some thought that I’ve been reflecting on. If you take anything away from this stop waiting to live and start living NOW. You always wanted to study fine art to feed your inner child’s curiosity? Do it. Always wanted to be outdoorsy or relocate to a coastal city or grow a garden or connect with that person you find fascinating? Do it.

This is your life. The only actors in this play are you and your inner child. You are the person that pays the bills and takes on responsibility. Your inner child is the one itching to live.

Please do not live like a shadow and please take up space. There is absolutely nothing to fear. The people do not live in your world, they are not actors in this play. Only you and your inner child are…

Be the architect of your life and make room for those two actors to thrive in harmony. The play is yours and yours alone. Your world is yours and yours alone and only you have the power to build it. No one else should matter…

Think of yourself as the only person on this planet and start living like no one is looking🌱.

Peace and blessings,

– A Soulscape

Re-programming the mind

Did you know that you have been programmed? Whether this was through your parents, your environment, the company you keep, traumatic experiences…your mind has been conditioned to think the way it does.

Half of the work in becoming who you want to be, who you truly are, is realising you have been programmed. Realising the beliefs you hold, the limits on what you can and can’t achieve, your base assumptions and how you feel about yourself are most likely inputs from the external. This is half the work. To realise the extent of the brainwash.

The other half is to begin the journey to undo this. Repetition is one of the most powerful tools at your disposal. Just as the external programmed your mind to repeat in its incessant chatter the beliefs that others taught you to hold true, you must now replace all this old data with the data of your choice. This is where the power lies. Through repetition every day without fail you can counter the bombardment of thoughts and replace old data with new data you have selected.

1.) One way I do this is through using the app think up. It allows you to create different playlists of affirmations, record them in your own voice and play them on a loop. You can create a playlist for self confidence, weight loss, self love, health, gratitude, recovery from mental illness, stress relief, mental toughness, money, motivation, love, insomnia, abundance, studies… you name it. It’s all there. This is the new data which regularly repeated on a loop will reprogram the mind. You can listen in the gym, in the shower, on your commute to work, on a walk, when running errands. You can have specific playlists for different times of the day and to make a routine out of. Morning and evening. This is absolutely powerful and will shift the horizons of what you believe to possible. If you take anything from this post, invest in the app and use it with intentionality on a consistent basis to replace old programming with new programming you have selected.

2.) A second way I do this is through meditation. I have a morning and evening routine of meditations for specific issues I wish to work on as well as for beliefs I allowed the external to imprint in my mind which I have found difficult to shake off. No matter what is happening, no matter how you feel, begin your day with meditation. You can listen to several quick meditations in the morning for issues such as inner child healing, self love, etc and several before you sleep. This way you prop your morning and evening up with the thoughts you want to wake up to and the thoughts you want to fall asleep to. It doesn’t have to be difficult. You can meditate in bed- as soon as you wake up in the morning and just before sleep at night. This ultimately counters any programming such as negative encounters and interactions that may have taken place form the external while you were going about your day.

3.) Number three is the final and most important. You have to learn to choose what you want to interact with during the day. This is because anything has the potential to cause trauma and thus programming large and small. If you are in an environment that is consistently hostile – find a way to leave. If you have friends who frequently make snide remarks are disrespectful and do not bring positive energy- leave. This is not because you are weak but because this has the potential to programme your mind and your mind is all you have. Your mind is your prize, your gift and will determine just how spectacular you want your life to be and how unstoppable a force you wish to become. Recognising the avenues which have the potential to programme your mind is like constructing a dam in all the departments of your life you don’t want poisonous water to reach you. In this way it serves as prevention where the cure for the harmful water that does reach you is what I have outlined in points one and two. In circumstances where you are unable to leave you must create a habit of grounding yourself back into your own mind after the harm has been in your proximity. This grounding is up to you to establish. It can be deep breathing, taking a beak, creating a new present moment. Anything you wish. Recognise that harm can come in the form of traumatic news, negative company, a hostile co worker, disrespectful emails. If you do not act this has the possibility to program a belief that until that moment you did not hold. The mind is your garden and you absolutely need to control what and who has access to it as well as the potential for it to be influenced.

If you implement these three things your life will 100% change for the better and peace will descend into your mind body and soul. To read more about the mind and programming you can follow the work of Dr Joe Dispenza who has extensively elaborated on this topic.

Peace and blessings… and remember to never stop seeing the beauty in everything…

~A Soulscape

On Success

Over the past few days I have realised that the difference between the people that live their dream life and those that talk about their dream life is one thing: a series of meticulously scheduled actions.

Those that talk about their dream life may speak about it in vague terms on an even more amorphous timeline. Note the dreamer will think in terms of time. “Next year I will…”. “By 2030 I will…”. “Before 30 I will…”. The dreamer often talks excessively but doesn’t do. They do just that: dream.

The doer on their other hand does not think in terms of a time line but a scheduled series of actions to take them to a concrete goal on a specific date. The doer doesn’t talk. They just do. The doer has a to do list which may appear mundane which eventually takes them towards that fulfilling and exciting goal. The doer puts in the work no matter how they are feeling.

If you want that dream life you must begin to think like the doer and start scheduling building your dreams into your daily life. What will you do today, this week, this month, this year to build your dream? What are the series of actions that need to be executed in order to attain this goal? What is the exact date for the goal?

If you were looking for a sign today this is it. Stop talking and move sis! Nothing changes unless you change. Nothing will move unless you do.

~ A Soulscape

Wisdom From Al-Ghazali

“If you see Allah, Mighty and Magnificent, holding back this world from you, frequently trying you with adversity and tribulation, know that you hold a great status with Him. Know that He is dealing with you as He does with His Awliya’ and chosen elite, and is watching over you.” ~ Al-Ghazali

How to learn to read Qur’an

I started learning the Arabic alphabet in December 2017 at age 22. At times taking weeks and even months off I started learning to read Arabic and learn the rules of tajweed on a semi regular basis on average about once a week. I’ve gone through many teachers and have gotten to a point as of today where I can open any page of Qur’an and read with a few mistakes in Tajweed. Today I read through Surah Nuh for the first time and it came out of my mouth fluently! I am so grateful to have got here as it was a really difficult process and would like to share some tried and tested advice for someone who is starting out.

  1. Make sure your first teacher has a good command of the English language and the science of English grammar so that they are able to translate the Arabic equivalents easily and simply. This will help if you want to research a grammatical rule later.
  2. Don’t be afraid to change teachers. I remember having a teacher that I dreaded going to despite the comfort of her actually living a few doors down. It made it stressful for me to study with her because her approach was quite aggressive/ impatient. What you don’t want is to be intimidated by your own teacher especially if you are paying. There are plenty of other teachers out there if you ask around who have a gentler approach. For example I asked around at my local mosque and found a new teacher who offered to teach 1-1 for free ( May Allah bless her, ameen). If you don’t ask you don’t get, so ask around for a teacher better suited to you if you are dissatisfied with the one you have.
  3. “When the student is ready the teacher appears”. This could not be any more true. Trust that when you are ready and willing to learn Allah will facilitate the perfect teacher to find you.
  4. Try to do 1-1 when starting out with Tajweed. This makes the process faster. When I first started I joined classes at the mosque which were not too bad but very slow. I recommend joining a larger class later for memorisation/ more advanced levels later on.
  5. Trust the process. This is cliché but true. There were times I’d take 3 steps forward and 10 steps back. Times when I would get really confused and frustrated for not understanding things faster and making so many mistakes / reading extremely slowly. There were other times however with practice where I saw measurable progress. Don’t focus on the outcome but rather the present process and be gentle with yourself.
  6. Always read a little Qur’an on a regular basis to practice your tajweed. Focus on doing a little regularly rather than lot one month then burning out the next month.
  7. Keep all your notes in a neat folder/ textbook with clear writing for referencing. This makes it easier to look for a rule when you forget.
  8. Final tip: Do not worry you’re not exaggerating the letters, Arabic actually sounds like that ! 😅

Peace ~Serenity O.

Pic: cypriotsister on IG

If…

If you don’t show up as and stand up for who you are, who will? If you are not unapologetic with your identity how will the right people find you and know you?